unspoken thoughts

tegur dgn cara yang baik?

heheh, aku baru je lps paper pph tadi. alhamdulilah semua yg dispot kelua, kelua jugak! yeay! alhamdulilah, Allah sentiasa ada di sisi bukan saja waktu exam, setiap waktu janji kita ingat dia. heheh, tapi tak tau, bahasa english aku ni bukanla mantap sgt pn! harap2 la pakcik lect pph aku paham apa aku tulis..

anyway, seperti biase, bila dah abis satu paper pastu gap the next paper tu adalah dlm 2 hari lagi, mula lagho jap: bukak frenster,bukak blog,bukak ym etc. alaaa korang phm la. pastu i stumbled upon one blog entry from my pren. pasal islamic awareness week kat uni dia. hehe aku pn tertarik la nk baca since the next islamic awareness week kat ucd ni under aku pulak. cess bagaimana nk organize?? ideas?? hehe

anyway back to that entry, dia komplen dia ditegur secara keras jugak la oleh akak senior ni, i mean she was wif her bf ke ape, and takdela pegang tangan ke ape, just that normal gesture u guys do bila klua dgn kekasih korang kan? cuma takdela bermesra tahap gila2 camtu. wallahualam aku tak tau le apa yg diorg buat smpi akak tu tegur dgn menjerit kat dia and her bf, i mean dia malu la sbb kat public place and ramai org sekeliling and it was during islamic awareness week. menurut kwn aku ni, mungkin betul la akak tu tegur but it wasnt the right way.oleh kerana kejadian teguran extreme ni, she takmo join dh all this islamic thingy dah

wallahualam, i dunno how true this is. but if were true, dun u think we have lose something here? i mean kita sesaudara islam, memang kerja kita tegur menegur org tapi jgnla smpi tahap extreme sehingga org mula naik phobia bende islam ni. hence goyah la ukhwah kita

ok2 i'm not being baik here! i myself am not perfect. selalu je kena tego, but alhamdulilah so far takdela org jerit kat aku and malukan aku publicly.but according to the humanist theory (ok ni sisa2 pph tadi..) each human being kat dunia ada goodness in them, its up to us to extract that out (postive encouragement bak kata carl rogers) , and what better way to that is by saling ingat mengingati! ceh, tak sangka la pulak pph ni ada gunanya..

so what i'm trying to say is, if kita nk tegur somebody, say for instance, nk tegur our friend not to wear that skimpy sexy top, kena figure out a way that won't make her terasa ke ape, a way that dia sedar yg betul jugak u tegur ni, ok2 i tuka baju lain yg decent. i mean u get me? u know la..

and jgnla pulak ingat, kalo kita tak tau tegur, kita tak tegur langsung! if kita dah tahu benda tu salah, dh jadi TANGGUNGJAWAB kita utk tegur. hmm betul tak? well, kalo kita tegur tapi dia tak ubah, takpela, at least ada usaha kita buat tu. Allah akan pandang usaha tu. insyaAllah

ok2 time to open up cardiac stuff! lalalala 2 more papers to go!

posted by || intan || @ 4:45:00 PM